Confidence For Introverts with Carole Issa
Dec 05, 2022
Carole Issa is a self-proclaimed introvert who now speaks internationally about leadership, emotional intelligence, communication, and entrepreneurship. She is on a mission to help the 'listeners' find the one idea that will create a massive change in their life. Learn how to discover what’s unique about you so you can become an outstanding team player or leader.
Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll hear…
▶️ [1:07] So, a little bit of mind about my story is that I used to be a sound engineer. And very good at what I did, but the problem was that I always was pushing through to get better and better at my hard skills. So, certificate after certificate is very comfortable behind the screen. Let's put it this way. I love to hang out with my cables, my microphones, my computer, and all of that. And I never realized that there was a whole new level to being a professional human being. And very quickly I got promoted to manage a recording studio by the age of 25. By the age of 26, I was invited to partner up with a business owner in the Middle East to start a training center for sound engineers and to manage it.
▶️ [4:58] So here's the thing I kept keep telling and sharing with my clients and the audiences that come to my workshops and keynote speeches I wish I had someone who could guide me at that time. Because really I had to figure it out on my own. I never really had access at the time to mentors, cultures and as I shared earlier, leaders who were successful in developing their soft skills. So I really had to figure it out on my own. And this is really what took a lot of time. So this is part of the equation. So getting access to the right tools, to the right structures that could help me get from where I was to where I wanted to be.
▶️ [7:23] Beautiful. Love it. So, coaching mainly is someone who's gonna through questions guide you to find out for yourself what's the best way moving forward. So it's guiding, supporting, it's not giving you necessarily the answers. So a coach has an idea of how is it that they're going to pull you toward what the best answer is for you. So in other words, they are looking to create in you this muscle of self-free lines, so that you become self-guided. Whereas a mentor, they have already achieved the results that you're after specifically.
▶️ [10:56] I'm not a big fan of the word introvert. So, the idea is that There is something that has to be done in the background slowly and gently, all the way up until the person is ready to go into a public setup, to start to voice their opinion and to deliver their message. And what we need to look at, number one is to silence the chitter chatter up here. So something that is specifically very well known and that all introverts experience, at least the one that I have worked with, including myself, is the ongoing chitter chatter that's happening up here. So they're usually big thinkers and they spend a lot of time in their heads.
▶️ [14:44] And what I love about that too is this idea of having a menu of starting points is that, and let's say, for example, using the thank you as the way to get out of fear, but it's also getting you into action. Immediately getting you into action and then you can progress. As you said, it gives your brain time to be able to think about what the next step is, but you just don't have time to be in fear at that point, in that scenario, if someone put you on the spot.
▶️ [18:11] On the contrary, what I love to do with my clients is to help them love where they're at, and love who they're being. And there is a book that I read a long time ago and I absolutely love the title I keep, which I use, I tell them, to love themselves as if their life depends on it. So it's all about embracing fully their introversion and learning how to be a resourceful introvert. So in other words, look at how is it that sometimes they might be overusing their introversion and start to look at how is it that they flex themselves into other areas that are within themselves. It doesn't mean that if I am an introvert, I don't know how to connect with others, and I don't know how to create a vibe or energy around. It's there.
▶️ [23:00] And knowing your purpose is a big one here. A lot of people think that they need to know their purpose, otherwise they won't be able to function. It's not that way. It's all about discovering your purpose as you move forward in life. It evolves, it grows with you. It's gonna be on the same pathway, and it's gonna evolve and grow with you. So it's about stretching yourself on keeping on upgrading your purpose. And usually, it starts with you, and then it starts to expand with others and being clear on the values that are the foundational pillar of this purpose to hold it while you're moving so that you can stay the course. And ultimately being committed to living your values and being on purpose, every time you fall off track, knowing that you are, hop back on, and keep on going.
▶️ [26:16] I agree with you. I think we're moving from an era of marketing that was very Direct response, act now the bonuses are going away those like all that scarcity and things like that. And while there can still be maybe a little bit of that, I think it's the approach that we're starting to see maybe eroding a little bit and maybe thankfully, so what I heard you say there is really live-in integrity. I think that's exactly what you do by being an example. And I think your story obviously really helps because you came from the place by which the people that you helped today are who you were all those years ago.